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Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Stick Poking 101


I think I could teach a class on how to survive (meaning endure) this. Or at least share an idea or two to arm yourselves and your other children with. Stick poking: the constant annoying behaviors that seem quite 'normal' to any outsider but to those enduring they are like nails on the chalkboard. I am sure if you are parenting a kiddo with RAD you could easily list their stick poking behaviors and can tell others their current favorite stick of the day/week/month. Her current poker of choice,, especially to her siblings is laughter-at them, about them, when they are talking, eating, walking, sitting...for no reason at all. A laughter that is forced, done to make others feel bad about themselves, to make another uncomfortable or embarrassed. This has been her favorite stick for a few weeks, however I think the stick is almost broken because her siblings aren't bothered by it much anymore. Which sort of breaks my heart, yet I am thankful for their ability to see past the laughter and know it has nothing to do with them. They sort of smile now and look at her like 'nice try, you're stick is broke'.
They are now armed with-when someone is nervous/uncomfortable/embarrassed they might choose to laugh because that is easier at them instead of facing the 'big feeling' they are experiencing. So when they will be laughed at by classmates they hopefully won't be bothered by it, having the armor to deal with it.
Wonder which stick she will choose next....

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